The 2026 FIFA World Cup has been a truly historic sporting event. With an expanded field of 48 teams competing across the US, Canada, and Mexico, it’s delivered some unbelievable moments of triumph, disappointment, and resilience. It’s made the US a soccer nation.
But beyond the last-minute upset goals and fun watch parties lies a surprising lesson for separating and divorcing families, as well as their lawyers: success depends a lot less on defeating your opponent and a lot more on navigating the conflict with clear strategy, discipline, and, even when it’s hard, respect.
I’ve been a family lawyer for over 35 years and playing soccer for even longer, and I co-chair the Forest Hills Youth Athletic Association, so trust me when I say that the two have a lot in common. I’m being playful, but I’m also serious.
Separation, divorce, or custody litigation is like soccer in that it’s a contest governed by rules. Emotions inevitably run high, but the most successful participant understands that lasting success comes from focusing on the process rather than striving to win at all costs. (In fact, oftentimes when one side scores a lopsided victory at the expense of the other, everyone loses.)
Every team entered the World Cup with the same objective, but only those that adapted to changing circumstances survived. Teams that lost their composure after conceding an early goal often performed poorly for the rest of the game. The same is true in family disputes.
Divorce, parenting disagreements, and financial conflicts rarely unfold exactly as expected. Parties who remain flexible, communicate effectively, and keep their long-term objectives in mind are far more likely to achieve positive outcomes than those driven by anger, revenge, or hopelessness.
While being willing to adjust to changing circumstances is key, what separates champions from early exits is preparation. Elite soccer teams spend years studying opponents, their strengths and weaknesses, their tactics, and then develop counter tactics and practice set plays, all before the opening whistle.
Similarly, effective dispute resolution begins long before entering a courtroom or mediation. Gathering the right financial information, understanding your legal rights, identifying your priorities, and seeking (and listening to) sound legal advice are what allow for informed decision-making. Preparation reduces uncertainty and often creates opportunities for negotiated settlements that avoid costly and emotionally harming litigation.
The World Cup also demonstrates the importance of teamwork. Individual stars can influence a match, but Messi didn’t score his goal against Egypt alone. He needed teammates, coaches, assistants, medical staff, analysts, and others.
Families in legal dispute (and not just in family law matters) likewise benefit from a collaborative approach. Lawyers, mediators, financial advisors, mental health professionals, and parenting specialists each bring expertise that can help a family resolve disputes more constructively. When professionals work together for a common goal (pun intended), the focus shifts from conflict to solution.
Perhaps the greatest lesson comes from the role of the referee. Players may disagree with decisions, but the match can’t continue without an independent official enforcing the rules fairly.
Courtroom judges perform a similar function. However, unlike a soccer match, where every dispute requires a referee’s decision, many family law conflicts can be resolved through mediation, negotiation, or collaborative processes, with the courtroom being the last resort.
These alternatives actually allow parties to retain greater control over the outcome, while preserving relationships that often continue long after the legal proceedings end—particularly when children are involved.
Another takeaway from the World Cup is respect. The fiercest rivals, including teams from warring nations, routinely shake hands before and after matches. They acknowledge that competition need not destroy mutual respect, and that even if the respect isn’t sincere, it’s essential for the success of the game and so in their common interest.
Family disputes are a lot more personal, but maintaining civility can significantly reduce emotional and financial costs. Parents who communicate respectfully create a healthier environment for their children and are more likely to develop workable co-parenting arrangements.
The 2026 FIFA World Cup has been a spectacle of extraordinary athletic talent, tactical brilliance, and unforgettable drama. It’s also a reminder that the best outcomes rarely come from relentless confrontation alone. They emerge from preparation, discipline, teamwork, adaptability, and respect.
These principles win soccer matches, and they help families resolve disputes in ways that build stronger futures. In family law, as in the World Cup, you should always keep your eye on the ball.
